Woman refuses to let her broke 23-year-old brother and his wife live in her house rent-free if they get pregnant, insisting they can make their own life choices, just not in her house on her dime: ‘ I’m not going to financially support them in my home’

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Etai Eshet • Editor
Apr 25, 2025 6:00 PM EDT

One of life's great truths is that you can carve your own path, follow your dreams, and start an empire, just as soon as you're not typing your plan from someone else's basement. There's a whole generation out there convinced self-determination means making bold choices at family dinner, as long as someone else is footing the mortgage and leaving snacks in the fridge.

The generous sister's younger brother and his wife have decided that nothing says ready for parenthood like not being able to pay rent while simultaneously entering the Great Sibling Birth Race. The plan is simple: move into big sis's house, share the kitchen, and, as a bonus, add a newborn to the guest count. If you squint hard enough, any basement looks like an opportunity for generational wealth, or at least a nursery with borrowed Wi-Fi.

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  • Apparently, wanting to pick who lives in your own home and which tiny human’s diapers you’re going to be sniff-testing first is now a moral crime. Because the family insists the older sister shut up and be supportive. After all, nothing brings people together like communal sleep deprivation and the tender sound of baby cries echoing through thin basement walls.

  • "I dont want my younger brother and his wife living with us if they have a baby. AITAH?"

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  • I (27F) and my husband (28M) recently bought our first home and are trying to start a family. (I have also lost a p y about 5 months ago). My youngest
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  • brother "BB" (23M) and his wife "A" (23F) have come across hard times. They have asked if they could rent our basement bedroom from us once their lease
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  • is up while they get on their feet. This would mean sharing common living areas and kitchen. I am okay with that. However, my other brother "OB" (25m) and his
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  • girlfriend have recently announced they are expecting. This has somehow put "BB" and his wife in a "race" to have the next baby. (I.E. Before me and my
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  • husband) "BB" and "A" continue to bring up the fact that they are trying to have a child at EVERY dinner or family gathering since OB's announcement. I am
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  • incredibly frustrated with them as they are asking for a cheap place to stay because they have no money but also trying to bring a child into this world unprepared. I
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  • HELP
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  • have expressed my opposition to them having a child before they have their financial situation in a better place and have also told them, if they get pregnant, I do
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  • not want them living in my house. At Easter dinner I told "A" again, ( after she brought it up) that they are making a bad decision and that I wasn't going to financially
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  • support them in my home if she got pregnant. This made her cry. Now my family is telling me I have no business telling them how to live their lives and I should shut up and support them or get
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  • out of their lives. I also am having big feelings because I want the first baby in my home to be my own. AITA for this? Im i horrible for feeling this way? What should I do?
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  • Edit: my feelings about a baby in my home.
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  • satr3d I wouldn't let them live in my house if they are actively working to get pregnant while not being able to afford other housing. It pretty much guarantees they won't be moving back out.
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  • Turbulent Ebb5669 Stick to your guns. They can live with any of the family members who told you to mind your own business about your home.
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  • QueenaBeena ΝΤΑ Don't let any of them move in your house. They're going to cause problems in your marriage.
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  • NC_Ninja_Mama I think you already know the answer, it's simple. You need peace in your house and that should come first. You are at such a beautiful time in your life and starting a
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  • family... and this will really affect the environment for your home. If they can afford a baby, they need to be able to afford their own place. Accidents happen but they are planning that and it's not stable behavior.
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  • KalaniClean NTA. You're not heartless for refusing to turn your home into a daycare for a financially reckless sibling chasing a baby rivalry; grief, boundaries, and common sense deserve more respect than their petty timeline.
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  • No_Scarcity8249 You aren't telling them how to live.. you're refusing to finance it. Go have some kids.. but you can't stay here AHs. The hubris of people. This is major AH. If this comes up again..
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  • whoever says that is who takes them in. Make that known. They're living with you and having a bunch of kids. They're trying to burden you and force you to support kids they're having and YOU are the AH?
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  • MarionberryOk2874 It is absolutely your business if they move in and then get pregnant, they won't leave, and you'll be stuck supporting them! Or you'll 'be the a hole' for kicking a pregnant girl out while they
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  • are struggling to make ends meet. This is all a bad idea, sorry, but someone else (who would be happy to have them and their baby) can let them move in. NTA
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